In order to use I statements effectively at first, you will need to learn to calm down before expressing your anger. Take some time to thing over what you would like to say before spitting it out.

Once you have thought through what you would like to say, write it down if you have time. If you don’t have time to write your thoughts down, take the time to thing through your points in your head.

While you are calming down and thinking, your tendency will more than likely be to push the blame off and use the word “you” in a lot of your sentences. More than likely, unless the person or situation that angered you is a very even headed person, you will start to make them upset because using the word you, puts the blame back on the other party.

Now that you have everything thought through in your head, reword everything into “I” statements. Instead of stating, “You really irritated me”, state, “I really feel irritated”. This will allow the other party to know how you feel without putting the blame back on them.

Taking the time to think and reword your thoughts will allow you to calm down before going into an outburst of rage and sooner or later you will start to feel better about yourself because you have learned to communicate with others better as well.

I hope you have learned something about expressing your anger in a healthy way and I know you will start to feel better about yourself once you learn to take these steps. For even more help with anger management please visit 7offers.com/anger-management-help.

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1. Understand Your Anger – Take the time to really think about what is making your angry. The underlying problem may or may not be obvious to you, but you will really want to look deep and think about what your underlying problem is. If you need to, lock yourself in a quiet room with pen and paper or carry a voice recorder with you to make verbal notes to yourself and playback your recordings at the end of the day for introspecting. I will give you one hint, the guy that cut you off on the way to work who then waived at you in an unfriendly way is not the real cause of your anger, it was just a trigger.

2. Start To Think Positive – I know this sounds real cliché, but positive energy attracts more positive energy and negative energy does just the opposite. Did you ever notice that when you flash a genuine smile at someone, they will more than likely smile back? On the other hand, if you start bashing someone behind their back, it is more than likely the rest of the group you are in will probably start talking bad along with you. Every morning when you wake up, tell yourself you will be positive today and after a while it should just start to come naturally for you.

3. Forgive Others and Ask For Forgiveness – It is easy to be bitter and carry around your anger with you instead of forgiving someone that hurt you, being the bigger person will allow you to move on to bigger and better things for yourself. Forgive and forget is not just a cliché term, it really is true. On the other hand, when you ask others for forgiveness you will not carry guilt with you for wronging someone. This guilt could possibly lead to anger with yourself for not handling the situation differently.

These three anger management tips are not the end all to be all for helping you with your anger issues, but implementing them in your life will get you started on the right path to recovery. Whatever you find is right for you will only help you in the long run. Visiting 7offers.com/anger-management-help will give you some more ideas to help you on your path to recovery.

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